Tips for coaching introverted players

Although human personality is quite varied, there are only two ways to process emotions.

The Swiss psychologist Carl Jung explained that emotions are driven in two distinct directions - inwardly or outwardly. 

Individuals that internalize emotions are introverts; those that externalize emotions are extroverts. People are hardwired to process their emotions one way or the other. 

Competition, group dynamics, and player feedback profoundly affect players emotionally. Your coaching style will directly impact player and team functioning.  

Traditional coaching approaches that rely on motivational speeches, group unity, and even personal disparagement cater to the extrovert.

But half the population is said to be introverted, so it is important to incorporate interventions that fit both emotional styles to give all players an equal chance to learn and succeed.  

Introverted personality traits

It is a mistake to assume the introvert is always quiet and shy — some are, but not all. There are also plenty of extroverts that struggle with social insecurities. 

The introvert is empathic and is especially sensitive to disappointing others. In contrast, extroverts are more concerned about social status.

"Traditional coaching caters to extroverts but half of people are said to be introverts..."

You notice the personality of the extrovert walking into the room, but not so much the introvert’s — unless embarrassingly knocking something over while trying to sneak in. 

The introvert’s passive, even blasé, expression can hide a depth of thoughts and feelings which stands in contrast to the expressive banter of the extrovert.

The introvert is apt to turn their emotional stress into physical symptoms such as a headache or stomach ache. In contrast, the extrovert gets angry to discharge stress.  

Coaching interventions for the introverted athlete

1. Treat players with respect

Coach in a neutral tone. Do not use shame, anger or guilt to motivate introverts, because introverts are sensitive to criticism. 

Extroverted players can sometimes get fired up by a little anger, since it is a form of attention-seeking. 

Introverts are inherently conscientious, and when they appear lazy or indifferent, it is often due to insecurities about disappointing you.

You need to ensure teammates treat each other with respect. There should be clear rules against bullying - if you just leave it up to players to resolve their differences, the introverts may become outcasts.